The wisdom in our kids' feelings, even the icky feeling ones

When my daughter told me the story of a friend she felt was treating her unfairly, I recognized how easy it often is to slip into the "fix it" role to take away their discomfort. But what if that discomfort is not a problem at all.  In fact, it's the essence of what connects them to their internal guidance.  A guidance system they'll need to navigate their way through their life and relationships.  Our gift to our kids is our ability to stay with our own discomfort as we allow them to stay with theirs.

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Parenting can lead us to a threshold in life we hadn’t known before. We're bringing into the parenting dynamic with our kids the momentum of our previous experiences - our resources and resilience, as well as our disconnection and disembodiment due to trauma (individual, familial, cultural, historical & intergenerational).  Beyond the challenges we face to parent in ways we may not have been parented, there is a deep love for our children that wants to be expressed and known in presence with them. There's also a yearning in us to experience that deep love ourselves; to feel our power and to live authentically, just as we yearn to protect that for our kids, too. The urgency to heal what's still alive within us might come up with a force because of them, and yet it's ultimately a reclamation of our life force, vitality, joy, connection and creativity we're most hungry for. It’s sometimes a desire bold as love that fuels our courage to meet what we fear to face.