222. Healing from co-dependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism in your dating life with Victoria Albina

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life. Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions. We get into: How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe Links:  ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Victoria’s website Victoria on Instagram  Feminist Wellness Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina  

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How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Date Brazen Podcast, where we’ll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She’s here to help you do the same. If you’re looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.