My Parents Need a Divorce - Fridays with Ferne: Episode #28
Have you ever wondered, “why is she still with him?” Have you ever seen someone you care about mistreated in a relationship? Ron didn’t understand why his mother was still with his father. Ron loves both of his parents, but he knows first-hand how scary his father can be. When his father is happy, he is a very charismatic man. But when he’s not happy, everyone knows to stay away. Ron’s father can change his emotional state at the flip of a switch, and his mother is the one who takes most of the heat. Not only is he rude and aggressive, but he also blames all his mistakes on her. And worst of all, she accepts the blame just to smooth things over. Ron is worried about his mother, she claims to be happy, but she doesn’t always seem that way. He doesn’t know how to help her. Before assuming that his mother is a victim and that she needs help, Ron should get the full story. I recommend that Ron start by asking his mother questions privately, in a way that doesn’t judge or attack her. Questions like, “why are you still with him?” or “how do you put up with him?” might put her on the defensive. Something like, “I noticed that dad gets mad easily, how do you feel when that happens?” opens the door for his mom to tell him how she feels without making assumptions. Only after Ron gets the full story can he help his mother.Click here to listen to this new episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast!https://www.frameofmindcoaching.com/the-frame-of-mind-coaching-podcastRead the episode's transcript here:https://www.buzzsprout.com/1252997/episodes/9920810Have you found yourself in a similar situation? Do you have a case you’d like to talk about? Share your story! If there's a challenge you'd like to discuss here on the podcast or privately, please reach out to us:kim@frameofmindcoaching.comfernekotlyar@live.com