The More I Try To Help, The Worse It Gets - Fridays with Ferne: Episode #21
Have you ever had a friend that ended up on the wrong side of the tracks? Have you ever felt like the more you tried to help them, the more distant they got? Millie has a good friend Tom, he's a kind guy with a sweet smile and a shy laugh. One day, Tom starts doing drugs. He tries it once, twice, and then starts doing it every weekend. Millie begins to worry about him, but the more she expresses her worry, the more Tom draws away. He doesn't want to hear about her worries or her nagging. Tom stops reaching out and stops answering Millie's messages. Millie didn’t know what to do, she didn’t know how to help him. If Millie really cares about Tom, and is ready to be consistent with him, I would suggest for Millie to simply be Tom’s friend. To be his supporter, even if he is doing something she disapproves of. I would encourage Millie to be consistent with Tom and focus on all the things that are going right, be his anchor to a healthier world.Now, if YOU were in Millie’s position, what would you do? Let us know!Click here to listen to this episode:https://www.frameofmindcoaching.com/the-frame-of-mind-coaching-podcastRead the episode’s transcript here:https://www.buzzsprout.com/1252997/episodes/9490920Have you been in any of these two positions? Do you have an interesting case you’d like to share? Reach out! If you want to share your thoughts on this episode or the show, or if you’d like to share your experiences with us, email us!kim@frameofmindcoaching.comfernekotlyar@live.com