225. Recognizing Your Self Worth When Things Feel “Too Hard” With Tiffany Houser
Only you can compromise your self-worth. No one else can. This isn’t about your compensation or competence; we're talking about your intrinsic belief in yourself that you are worthy and valuable as a human being. Self-worth is often used incorrectly in the entrepreneurial world; we say things like “charge what you're worth.” (I’ve done it, too!) But you are a human being. Your worth is invaluable. As an executive and leadership coach and entrepreneur, Tiffany Houser knows firsthand about the rollercoaster ride of self-worth. As the founder of EVOLVE, Tiffany coaches senior leaders who are ready to experience powerful breakthroughs around their self-worth, authentic leadership style, vision, and purpose. “What gets a lot of us, if not all of us through change, is our worth and our value to know what has us resist change and what has us embrace change,” Tiffany says. “But then when we really looked at the behavior, the habits and all of the research that was going into this, we started to see it was our self-worth. It was how we valued our self, what we thought about ourself, how we treated ourselves.” Tiffany says compassion is rarely talked about in the workplace. It is an advantage to understand your own experience with self-worth. Those feelings of being an imposter, insecure, self-doubt or fear are nuanced for the individual. Her team looks at first is language and how we are speaking, writing, reading and even listening. These words are what is poking holes and having us compromise our own self-worth. What Tiffany tends to hear is, “Oh, I've been treated this way, or I have been passed over for this and no one has hired me for that, or I can't get my team to do XYZ.” That has nothing to do with your self-worth, your value or your impact, your contribution. You're either compromising your self-worth or you're grounded in your self-worth – there is no positive or negative. Tiffany helps to support people with neutralizing their language and their words. The number one word is “hard”. It’s too hard. Hard is a throwaway word. Your subconscious is using that without even really being descriptive about what is going on. The way Tiffany supports leaders or teams is to have them get specific. What exactly is hard? Tell me more. Think about all the teams and all the entrepreneurs that have thrown the baby out with the bathwater because of hard. They walk away from investments. They walk away from people. They walk away from clients. They walk away from opportunities. Because one aspect of that was not easy. Or maybe you just didn't have all the context around what that was. This is a lifelong journey of transformation, leadership and knowing your worth and value because the biggest things that evoke and provoke your imposter feelings and your insecurities are change and new. The world is constantly evolving around us and that's where that compassion piece comes back into play. So rather than beating yourself up, you get compassionate. And when you are compassionate with yourself and other people, that births curiosity rather than judgment or pressure. Mentioned: Self Worth Advantage® Online Course: https://www.selfworthadvantage.com/offers/29LBSesk/checkout Connect with guest Tiffany Houser: https://www.selfworthadvantage.com Other GoG episodes you might want to check out: Coaching the Unconscious Mind: Unlock Your Genius: https://sarahwalton.com/coaching-unconscious-mind/ Why You Shouldn't Under-Price Your Work: https://www.youtube.com/live/Hm0DhT4Lo88?si=5HFXzsMNCCJ616SV You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton Thank you so much for listening. I’m so honored that you’re here and would be so grateful if you could leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, and clicking “Write a review.” Then we’ll get to inspire even more people! (If you’re not sure how to leave a review, you can watch this quick tutorial.) #SelfWorth #SelfConfidence #ImposterSyndrome #AskExpert #IntuitiveBusinessCoach #WomenInBusiness #EntrepreneurLifestyle