8. Critique Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means
Ugh. It’s the worst right? You’re going about your day, doing what you know you’re good at (or at least feel like you’re faking you’re good at) and BAM! You see someone killing it (or so it seems), and your heart drops. Your shoulders droop just a little bit lower than they were and you exhale… A long, bummed exhale filled with the mean thoughts you tell yourself when you think no one’s listening. (Ahem, you are listening, and it matters.) That’s the kind of critique that happens when you feel like someone else’s success means something about where YOU are right now. I know you get that that’s not true, but I know you’ve also probably felt that exact thing. “Why are they so much better than I am?” “Ugh, I wish I could do that like she does.” That, my dear, is self-critique, and it opens the door to your feelings of inadequacy. Other critics love to jump on that. In this episode, we're going to talk about what critique really means, when it matters, and when it doesn't. By the end of the episode, you'll know how to laugh (instead of cry!) when someone has something to say that feels negative - even when that "someone" is you.