Cousin Jay from the Nelk Boys - The Michael Sartain Podcast
@COUSINJAYLIVE is a viral content creator and founder of the Dream Squad, known for his comedic skits, pranks, and collaborations with the Nelk Boys. Beyond entertainment, he’s now leading a streaming content house in Miami and rebranding to show more of his real, thoughtful personality. ———————————————————— 🔥 Steal my blueprint for attracting signed models and attending VIP-only events in 21 days... Without dating apps or late-night cold approach: https://www.moamentoring.com/opt/yt 📈 I'm looking for world-class talent to help me create a world of fulfilled men ($30k+/mo job openings): https://www.moamentoring.com/jobs ———————————————————— 00:00 - Intro 00:47 - Growing Up in Sacramento & Power Slap Talk 01:40 - Creative Childhood & Painting 02:24 - High School, Football & Early Life 03:30 - Being Black, Confidence & Superpowers 04:30 - Stuttering, Speaking Power & Becoming a Creator 05:38 - Getting Girls With Confidence & Humor 06:31 - Advice for Introverts & Social Power 07:38 - Eye Contact, Masculinity, and Simp Avoidance 08:46 - Origin of the "Cousin Jay" Persona 09:44 - Haters, Fake Fans & Real Ones 10:55 - Therapy, Struggles, and Growth Through Content 12:09 - Creators That Inspired Him: DDG, The Minorities 13:10 - Dinner With Idols & Surreal Moments 14:18 - Doing Man-on-the-Street Before It Was Cool 15:18 - Viral Grandma Kissing Clip in Croatia 16:10 - Picking Up Girls in Country Bars 17:17 - Handling Hate When Dating Publicly 18:22 - Why He Keeps Relationships Private Now 19:34 - Starting the Love Series: Looking for His Person 21:00 - Fans Trying to Steal His Girl, Dark Side of Fame 22:02 - TikTok, YouTube, and What Platforms Like 23:06 - Getting Banned Over a Nipple Slip 24:21 - YouTube AI & Content Deletion Drama 25:26 - Rebranding to “Real Cousin Jay” 26:21 - He’s More Than Just the Flirty Guy 27:31 - On the Effect He Has on Women 28:22 - BBL Girl Analogy & Not Abusing His Looks 29:33 - Low Stimulus vs High Stimulus Women 30:17 - Modern Dating & Cold Approach Challenges 31:34 - What Makes a Man Stand Out in 2025 32:40 - Social Media Addictions & Dating Detox 33:45 - Most Controversial Prank He Did 35:00 - Getting Demonetized for Controversial Content 36:30 - AI Catches the Slip, YouTube Ban Hits 37:12 - Channel Reset: Posting The Real Him 38:05 - Rebuilding His Image From Scratch 39:17 - Haters Who Still Watch 40:22 - What Makes a Content House Work 41:34 - Streaming Houses in Miami & Creator Culture 42:48 - Fresh & Fit, John Zerka & The Miami Creator Scene 44:08 - Story About Being Shadowbanned & Life Reflection 45:34 - 2% of Friends Stayed, Found His People 46:31 - What He Posts on TikTok, IG, and Snap 47:15 - Editing Content for Each Platform 48:00 - Why Holding Women Accountable Gets You Banned 49:20 - Makeup & Tampons Theory Behind Platform Bans 50:31 - His Podcast with Seem That Never Took Off 51:44 - Launching Dream Squad Podcast Solo 52:30 - Voice Power & The Importance of Speaking Up 53:40 - Why He’s Making Music Next (Lil Nas X Lookalike?) 54:50 - EDM, Tech House, and DJ Mentors 56:06 - John Summit & Disco Lines Taught Him DJing 57:21 - Doing What Others Won’t Do for Content 58:18 - Why His Content Stands Out: No Fear, All Action 59:40 - Dream Squad: Where He Wants To Take It 1:00:45 - People Still Misunderstand His Brand 1:01:42 - WNBA vs YMCA Guys Debate 1:02:34 - Cold Approach Tips 1:03:22 - Power in Identity 1:04:10 - Speaking Deep 1:05:12 - Spotting Clout Chasers 1:06:35 - Phone Behavior Test 1:07:38 - Men Getting Softer? 1:08:25 - AI Influencer Era 1:09:14 - Just Delete Socials 1:10:12 - Strike Reality 1:11:15 - Male vs Female Rules 1:12:30 - Too Real For Platforms 1:13:42 - Building From Scratch 1:15:12 - Streaming Tips 1:16:25 - Shoutout to His Team 1:17:40 - Cousin J Media 1:18:52 - Advice for Creators 1:20:00 - Start With What You Have 1:21:33 - Gear Setup 1:22:44 - Lighting Is King 1:24:18 - Skateboard Camera Story 1:25:21 - iPhone Only Setup 1:26:30 - Audio + Light Balance 1:27:42 - Streaming Over Longform 1:29:05 - Building Outside YouTube 1:30:10 - Be Consistent 1:31:25 - Don’t Fake Tate Energy 1:32:38 - Own Your Flaws 1:33:55 - Dropped School Day 1 1:35:00 - Writing A Book Next 1:36:18 - Donating, Not Flexing 1:37:34 - Running & Pickleball Goals 1:38:44 - Golf & Hobbies 1:40:00 - Where to Find Him 1:41:22 - Active on TikTok 1:42:19 - IG, Snap, Discord 1:43:30 - Patreon Journey 1:44:50 - Joe Budden Motivation 1:46:12 - Final Thank You 1:47:40 - Weekly Podcast Plans 1:48:50 - Voice Talent Reveal 1:49:43 - Speed Dating Idea 1:50:22 - Final Message