EP 91 - Cai Graham - Self Harm is Not Attention Seeking

Self Harm amongst young children has doubled in the last 6 years.   This makes for unsettling reading for any parent.   For many, this topic can be terribly scary as they themselves have little first hand experience of self-harm; resulting in many parents approaching the topic of self-harm from a place of fear.   When a parent finds out that their child has been self-harming they do very often blame themselves. Experiencing feelings of : Confusion, Helplessness and Uncertainty.   It is understandable for parents to be alarmed as reports are quoting rising statistics and also linking self-harm with increased risks of suicide. So understanding self harm, in my opinion, is key. In this episode I discuss What is Self Harm Why your child might be self harming The signs to look out for What to avoid doing Alternatives to self harm Other ways to help Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~ A lot of the information I cited was from a research paper developed at Oxford University. Resources Mentioned in this episode : 📍54321 Distraction : www.caigraham.com/54321 📍BOX Breathing : Calming Yourself Down : www.caigraham.com/boxbreathing 📍ChildLine : www.childline.org.uk 📍YoungMinds : www.youngminds.org.uk 📍Samaritans : www.samaritans.org 📍Harmless : www.harmless.org.uk ~~~~~ * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

✔️ Recognising the triggers Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s tracks How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you! ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

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This podcast is for those of us who are parenting teenagers. Cai Graham’s straight-talking insights and tools & techniques are designed to equip parents (and teenagers) with the tools for navigating adolescence.