014: The Parenting Paralysis - Guilt & What To Do About It

Guilt is a paralyzing and unproductive emotion. Carrying guilt throughout our parenting is something we are used to doing but it takes away from the positive experiences with our children. Tune into this episode to discover what drives parent guilt and how to resolve it.    Here are some take-aways from the episode: Accept that parenting is a process. The way we parent in the 21st century is new to humanity and we keep evolving.    We know the importance of the right care for the child, but sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves to know it all.    It is OK not to be the expert. Live your own experience with the goal of honing your own parenting skills.   Reconnect with your own values. Feel the depth of those things that really matter. Focus on those to move yourself closer to fulfilling your mission.   Know your job. Your job is to nurture your child — learn as much about your child’s nature and nurture that.   The way you do that will be different from the way others do that. Every child/parent/family is different.   No one is perfect, we all make mistakes. Sometimes we need those mistakes so that we see a better way. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.   When you do need help, decide who participates in the conversation and let other voices not to matter.     Host: Julia Pappas | Psychologist & Parent Coach theparentingpresence.com https://juliapappas.co

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The "parenting presence" is the inner strength and gentle wisdom available to any parent who is willing to spend time to get to know themselves. Parents who learn how their own emotional regulation works, how their needs are met, and how actions are guided by thoughts and interpretations — also discover an amazing source of influence and guidance available to them in parenting. Why? Because when parents know the rhythms of their own inner workings, they are also able to discover what makes their child tick. We have many questions when it comes to parenting and just about everywhere we turn – someone’s got the answer! But how do you tease out what really matters? The PARENTING PRESENCE framework is your guide to parenting essentials and it consists of THREE CORE ELEMENTS. It is based on simple principles of child development and incorporates deep personal values everyone holds as a parent. This is a podcast about the most essential parenting skills we need in order to raise children with confidence and intention. Isn’t it so much better to know with certainty what to do, rather than follow random advice? Exactly! Join Julia Pappas, Psychologist and Parent Coach, on the mission towards informed parenting simplicity. What to do when children have strong emotions? What if the child’s behavior is out of control? How to manage our own anger and frustration? Find answers to your burning questions and get strategies that work today and bring maximum impact for long-term sustainable relationship with your children. For show notes, downloadable parenting resources, and more information, please explore each episode.