031: Parent On The Back Burner & Why Parents Burn Out

Parents burn out for many reasons, the most important of which is neglecting their own needs. Parenting is a demanding job, with many energy taxing tasks.   The most energy draining one of them is holding our child’s emotions.   Even though we want to be there for our children, supporting them emotionally -- is a lot of work. Our emotional energy gets spent the most when we are helping our child to process their strong emotions.    Parent burnout is quite complex because it goes beyond physical or mental burnout. When we support child's emotions without supporting our own, we deplete our emotional reserves. That happens even when we remain calm, present, and composed.​   Loss of emotional energy leads to emotional burnout.   And I think that this part may be the most hidden aspect of why parents not only burn out, but also have a hard time recovering.     Unless we make some intentional decisions to take care of ourselves as parents, we will experience this type of burnout. Do you know whether you are at risk for parent burnout and need to take proactive steps to prevent it from happening? Use the Parent Burnout Screener below to identify your burnout quotient and help you answer this question.     Watch out for signs of burnout. Be proactive and screen yourself for red flags by accessing the Parent Burnout Screener here. It only takes a couple of minutes to complete, but could make a huge difference in how you view and manage your role as a parent.   Sign up here for the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting training.   Host: Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach More info at theparentingpresence.com        

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The "parenting presence" is the inner strength and gentle wisdom available to any parent who is willing to spend time to get to know themselves. Parents who learn how their own emotional regulation works, how their needs are met, and how actions are guided by thoughts and interpretations — also discover an amazing source of influence and guidance available to them in parenting. Why? Because when parents know the rhythms of their own inner workings, they are also able to discover what makes their child tick. We have many questions when it comes to parenting and just about everywhere we turn – someone’s got the answer! But how do you tease out what really matters? The PARENTING PRESENCE framework is your guide to parenting essentials and it consists of THREE CORE ELEMENTS. It is based on simple principles of child development and incorporates deep personal values everyone holds as a parent. This is a podcast about the most essential parenting skills we need in order to raise children with confidence and intention. Isn’t it so much better to know with certainty what to do, rather than follow random advice? Exactly! Join Julia Pappas, Psychologist and Parent Coach, on the mission towards informed parenting simplicity. What to do when children have strong emotions? What if the child’s behavior is out of control? How to manage our own anger and frustration? Find answers to your burning questions and get strategies that work today and bring maximum impact for long-term sustainable relationship with your children. For show notes, downloadable parenting resources, and more information, please explore each episode.