Season 8 Episode 2: Asexuality in Polyamory

Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community. Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a little about the contrast between the polyamorous "public face" of "it's about the LOVE not the SEX" versus her actual lived experience. The episode actually opens with a detailed discussion of the many platforms that have come and gone for sharing information on sexuality, nonmonogamy, and kink, and the ways it's informed and changed the actual experience of end users and of educators and creators, as well. Evie Lupine is a YouTuber, asexual sex educator, and loud advocate for understanding in the BDSM community online. You can find twice-weekly videos from her on non-monogamy and kink on her YouTube channel, and some additional information and services (she does advice!) on her Patreon; Twitter and Instagram have pages for her but are somewhat disused. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine & https://www.patreon.com/evielupine2 for 1:1 chats, video calls and advice Twitter: https://twitter.com/EvieLupine Instagram: @evie.lupine

Om Podcasten

Welcome to the Ready for Polyamory Podast! Your charming host, Laura Boyle, will be talking to members of an ever more illustrious group of guests to present the concepts and nuances of Consensual Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and relationship skills in general. Like many polyamorous authorities, she has both mixed educational background (in English Literature, Sexual Diversity Studies, and Law) and personal experience (15 years at the time of this writing) in the field of consensual non-monogamy, and ten in polyamorous relationships more specifically, and this podcast is for the Big General Concepts that don't fit the nerdy detail of the blog (www.readyforpolyamory.com), or the bite-sized format of social media. It's an ongoing examination of polyamorous love, strengths, and challenges, as seen by a 30-something relationship and sex educator and coach.