Would you rather be right or happy? – Episode 276
* What is your first thought when you hear this question? * Do you believe that “right” is “truth” and that there is only one possible “right answer” (way to do something, opinion about a topic, etc.)? * Do you have “black and white” thinking? * Why? * What would it take to see the world in shades of gray (or colors)? Red is no more “right” than blue, for example. * What does the word “happy” mean in this context? * When has holding onto a position hurt more than letting go would have hurt? * Is Right and Happy possible? Sometimes. But in dealing with difficult people, sometimes, it’s just not worth the fight, conflict, escalation… * A lotta references to “conflict” and controversy are relevant in readings, and traditions, as well as arguments. * Can you “Live and Let Live” even if you are “right”? * Have you come to learn that most times, “urgent things are seldom Important, and Important things are seldom urgent”? (calling 911 for a paper cut…) * Slogans * How Important is it? * This Too Shall Pass * Is It Worth My Serenity? * Perspective episode also comes to mind, and First Things First… And Force vs Power * Sayings; * QTIP * Don’t * Take the bait * Pick up the rope * Be a willing participant in a toxic dance * “I don’t need to win anything today…” Readings and Links We opened with a reading from Courage to Change, October 29. We also mentioned the June 3 reading. We read from How Al-Anon Works on dealing with conflict (p. 98 in the soft cover edition), and Eric read about acceptance from …In All Our Affairs, p. 96. We were inspired by a Psychology Today article Right vs. Happy. And Eric ended with a quote from Chief Joseph. Coming next Our topic for next week is new topic. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Music from the show John Mayer: Heartbreak Warfare Billy Joel: You May be Right Pharell Williams: Happy