Episode 60: Are narcissists attracted to a specific type of person?
In this episode, I talk about the types of people narcissists are attracted to and why.
This is an older episode, and I use the term "codependent" to describe the types of people overt narcissists are attracted to, but I feel that needs some more explaining.
I was using the term "codependent" to refer to the kind of person who is an "over-giver." Someone who continually gives a person second and twenty-second chances, doesn't have any deal breakers or solid boundaries, and who is quick to put others (especially overt narcissists) first and themselves last. I also touch on in the end that not all people who act this way are necessarily codependent. (My definition of codependency is where one person clings to relationships because they need others to make them feel loved or "complete" often with disasterous consequences.)
Many people who are/were forever holding onto hope that another person could change, and putting their wants and needs last (myself included) do so because they may not have ever realized that dangerous and destructive people could be in their lives as a significant other, parent, friend, coworker, therapist, etc. This simply wasn't on our radar, and so once we know better, we can start to do better.
Do you think that a narcissist is attracted to a particular type of person? I'm asking because I've been in several relationships with several different narcissists.
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