Kelly's Favorite Conversations: Less Talk More Action with Trauma Expert, Ali Kates

Trauma is a buzzword, but how do you identify if you have trauma and what do we actually do to recover from it? It’s safe to say that all humans do at this point, and if you didn’t before the pandemic, that collective trauma may have had a deeper impact on you than you realize. According to trauma specialist and coach, Ali Kates, we are now in a mental health pandemic where people are suffering, but don’t know what to do.    In both a fun-filled and more serious conversation, Ali walks Kelly through her top tips for identifying and recovering from trauma, including three simple tricks you can incorporate into your daily routine.   Ali talks about the importance of having a hobby as it relates to mental health. Women, this one's for you! She gives recommendations of ideas for hobbies as well as questions to ask yourself to figure out what kind of hobby you may like. And if you are reading this thinking, I don’t have time for a hobby, there is discussion about that as well as how common it is for women specifically to not have hobbies.   Ali brings up the feeling of feeling “behind in life” and explains why that feeling specifically is often related to a traumatic experience.     The women also discuss the truth about anger, where it’s actually coming from, why expressing it can be very difficult for some people and overly used for others.    The last part of the conversation is dedicated to deciphering “victim mode” and what that actually is and how to find gratitude and growth through pain.    Socials: @alikates.co Website: alikates.co   Resources Referenced:  James Clear: https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits   Peter Levine : https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/about-peter   Gabor Mate: https://drgabormate.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The Velvet's Edge Podcast is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by Kelly Henderson—a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far—this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud. Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together. This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.