The Sayings That Sound Nice… But Kinda Suck (And What to Say Instead) (The Edge)

You’ve probably said them—or heard them—in tough times: “Everything happens for a reason,” “Time heals all wounds,” “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” But do these popular sayings actually help us heal… or just shut us down? In this episode, Kelly and Chip break down some of the most common feel-good phrases we hear in hard moments—and explain why they might be oversimplifying real-life pain, struggle, and growth. From “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” to “if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life,” they dig into where these ideas fall short and how they can unintentionally cause harm. But don’t worry—it’s not all doom and dismissiveness. They also offer more grounded, compassionate alternatives that make space for both truth and growth. Because sometimes, the best way to move forward is to stop pretending it’s all fine. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorschFollow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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The Velvet's Edge Podcast is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by Kelly Henderson—a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far—this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud. Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together. This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.