How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People
In this episode, Annie Hanekom chats with Rachel about how we need to step out of the drama triangle to have a better and healthier relationship with our colleagues.Episode Highlights[04:28] Enneagram Type 2 or The RescuerIn its simplest form, an Enneagram is a profiling tool.[06:09] The Rescuer in Its Truest FormType 2s or The Rescuers are motivated by the need to feel accepted, loved and included.[08:24] What Becomes Problematic in Being a Type 2Helping for too long might form resentment and impatience.Inherent in the term ‘The Rescuer’ is a sense of superiority for those who do the rescuing and inferiority to those who are being rescued.[12:00] Understanding the Drama TriangleThe whole drama triangle and sliding between the roles of rescuer, victim, and persecutor is a confusing slippery slope.Our behaviour is a reaction to the kind of role we assume or assigned to us.[18:39] How to Recognise the Role You’re TakingCreate pauses in your day-to-day schedule to give yourself some ‘me time’.You’re giving yourself a new sense of clarity.[24:04] Pausing and Taking ControlWhen we’re busy, we fall into the default of assuming these roles.When we find peace in our minds, we can take control of what’s taking place.[27:36] Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle Acknowledge the role you’re assuming in the drama triangle.Look for other options and shift the roles.[27:36] Taking the Coaching ApproachYou’re helping the person sort out their problems and not taking their problems as your own.[33:27] Language and Shifting RolesWe can change our roles for the better with the language that we use.Using power language can empower you and puts you in a position of choice.[41:29] Shifting the Mindset in Tricky SituationsTaking a pause will be helpful in tricky situations.Refrain from assessing and doing a deep reflection when we are unhappy because it won’t do well.[45:19] Getting into That Coach RoleThey’ll form a habit of asking themselves about their options rather than taking the role of the victim.[50:40] Annie’s Tips to Get Out of the Drama Triangle Acknowledge what you’re going through. Give yourself time to process things.Don’t beat yourself up.Watch your language.Before you give advice, ask the other person what they think.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Podcast LinksVirtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitResilient Team Academy for Busy LeadersYou Are Not A Frog Episode 65 with Dr...