How to Be an Adult with Ebonie Allard

Something a little different this week -we’re going back to an interview that was recorded just before the COVID crisis hit us. In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ebonie Allard, an award-winning life and business coach, author of Misfit to Maven: The Story of AARCH to AAHH and host of the popular podcast ‘Adulting with Ebonie’We chat about how to live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside which includes taking just the right amount of responsibility for yourself and for others. We discuss the control problems that people in high stakes, high stress jobs often have – either taking too much control or not enough control and think about the core values that will help us to filter all our decisions and determine what our success is in life. Once you know what your core values are, it becomes much easier to decide what to say ‘yes’ and what to say ‘no’ to. Ebonie’s three top pieces of advice are:Become curious about stuff in your life – without judgementGet clear on what you actually want. What are your needs? What are your desires?Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). What’s your next best option if Plan A doesn’t look like it’s going to work…?We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat hereListen to Rachel’s interview on ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ here https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/Here’s Ebonie’s podcast https://adultingwithebonie.com Find out about Ebonie’s work here https://ebonieallard.com Follow Ebonie on twitter Misfit to Maven: The story of AAGH to AAHH book View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you’re really good at what you do but you’ve noticed that you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you’ve spent years working towards. Here’s the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don’t have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again. Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it’s like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she’ll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.