#28 - “I feel silly getting hung up on my partner’s looks”

Have you ever nitpicked your partner’s physical appearance and felt so guilty for it? You are NOT ALONE! In this episode I address a community-submitted topic: hyper-fixation on “small, superficial, or physical traits about my partner, like teeth, hair, posture, or mannerisms.” Hyper-focus on our partner’s physical appearance can cause us to feel shame, so I discuss how to shift out of the shame and into more self-compassion. I also address the question of “if they were exactly the person they are right now, but looked different or to my ideal standard, then would all the questions around it go away?” DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your takeaways! — Additional resources: Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access) Download the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship Anxiety Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

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Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship. Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on. Cheers to learning about love!