088: Setting loving – and effective! – limits
The way we set limits has such profound implications for our parenting: it’s the difference between parenting in a constant state of anxiety, and being truly calm and confident that you’re making the right decisions as you move through your day. If we set ineffective limits, our child never knows where we stand. They push and push and push because they know we will allow it, then finally we blow up because they pushed us TOO FAR and they end up in tears (or angry) and we end up angry (or in tears, or both). But doesn’t setting limits mean being “harsh” or “punitive”? Not at all! When we set the right limits (by which I mean the right limits for your family), you can hold those limits effectively and the testing behavior will diminish dramatically. The result? More harmony at home. Less uncertainty for you. More confidence for your child. Give it a try! Other episodes mentioned in this episode https://yourparentingmojo.com/storytelling/ (Why storytelling is so important for our children) https://yourparentingmojo.com/rewards/ (Should we just Go Ahead and Heap Rewards on our Child?) https://www.addtoany.com/add_to/facebook?linkurl=https%3A%2F%2Fyourparentingmojo.com%2Flimits%2Fandlinkname=088%3A%20Setting%20loving%20%E2%80%93%20and%20effective%21%20%E2%80%93%20limits ()https://www.addtoany.com/add_to/twitter?linkurl=https%3A%2F%2Fyourparentingmojo.com%2Flimits%2Fandlinkname=088%3A%20Setting%20loving%20%E2%80%93%20and%20effective%21%20%E2%80%93%20limits ()https://www.addtoany.com/add_to/pinterest?linkurl=https%3A%2F%2Fyourparentingmojo.com%2Flimits%2Fandlinkname=088%3A%20Setting%20loving%20%E2%80%93%20and%20effective%21%20%E2%80%93%20limits ()https://www.addtoany.com/add_to/email?linkurl=https%3A%2F%2Fyourparentingmojo.com%2Flimits%2Fandlinkname=088%3A%20Setting%20loving%20%E2%80%93%20and%20effective%21%20%E2%80%93%20limits ()