190: How to use the tools in Parenting Beyond Power

One of the questions I'm asked most often about Parenting Beyond Power (preorder bonuses are available for just a few more days!) is: How is reading the book different from listening to the podcast? So when a group of listeners volunteered to get together to discuss what they got out of the book, that was the first thing I wanted to ask them. The core premise of the book is that the social forces of White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism have really hurt us - they're the biggest reason why we feel so much pain and shame. And we will pass on those hurts to our own children unless we do something different - and most of the book is about what we actually do differently to make parenting easier today, and work toward creating a world where everyone belongs. Eliza began: Each podcast episode is a deep dive into one topic, and what I loved about the book was that I've spent time thinking about all of these topics separately, but now I see the threads between them so much more clearly so I can see which pieces I still want to think more about or work on. Kat added: I do have some knowledge about how these cultural forces are affecting the population, and I'm constantly working on addressing them in myself. And the book provides a central place where we can address these issues with ourselves, and our children, and that that branches out into the community and the world at large. I think it's very powerful to have that central hub to help me connect all the different pieces of knowledge I have...and then do something with them! Elizabeth concluded: The examples are really helpful and I found them easy to connect with. I can't wait until I have the physical book in my hand to be able to go through and scribble notes in the margins! We talked about the needs cupcake, and how we can use that to understand the needs that both we and our children are trying to meet on a regular basis. Eliza found that she's able to be more regulated by managing the level of sound around her - which she hadn't realized was a 'cherry' need for her until now! Eliza coached Elizabeth through a struggle she's having with her daughter not wanting to go to bed, and Kat talked through a beautiful story of how she's supporting her children, who have been fighting with each other a LOT. Now they fight a lot less, because their needs are met more often. We're lucky that we heard Kat share that story before her phone battery died! Parenting Beyond Power is still available for pre-order for just a few more days...which means the pre-order bonuses are available for just a few more days too! (We will still have some bonuses available after September 5, but some of the coolest ones are going away then.) [Button] Click here to get the Parenting Beyond Power bonuses! And don't forget to mark your calendar for our launch events: Tuesday September 5 from 11am-noon Pacific on Zoom Sunday September 10 from 10am-noon LIVE in the Bay Area

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Parenting is hard…but does it have to be this hard? Wouldn’t it be better if your kids would stop pressing your buttons quite as often, and if there was a little more of you to go around (with maybe even some left over for yourself)? On the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, Jen Lumanlan M.S., M.Ed explores academic research on parenting and child development. But she doesn’t just tell you the results of the latest study - she interviews researchers at the top of their fields, and puts current information in the context of the decades of work that have come before it. An average episode reviews ~30 peer-reviewed sources, and analyzes how the research fits into our culture and values - she does all the work, so you don’t have to! Jen is the author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World (Sasquatch/Penguin Random House). The podcast draws on the ideas from the book to give you practical, realistic strategies to get beyond today’s whack-a-mole of issues. Your Parenting Mojo also offers workshops and memberships to give you more support in implementing the ideas you hear on the show. The single idea that underlies all of the episodes is that our behavior is our best attempt to meet our needs. Your Parenting Mojo will help you to see through the confusing messages your child’s behavior is sending so you can parent with confidence: You’ll go from: “I don’t want to yell at you!” to “I’ve got a plan.” New episodes are released every other week - there's content for parents who have a baby on the way through kids of middle school age. Start listening now by exploring the rich library of episodes on meltdowns, sibling conflicts, parental burnout, screen time, eating vegetables, communication with your child - and your partner… and much much more!