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SYPM 012: From fear-filled conflict to parenting as a team

av Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive | Publicerades 4/25/2021

"You're doing it wrong! You're not asking for consent before changing the diaper!" In this Sharing Your Parenting Mojo episode we meet parent Nicole, who has core values related to being empathic, constantly learning, and upholding justice in the world. These awesome values came together in a difficult way when Nicole became a parent: she had a deep fear of not getting parenting right, so she was constantly reading and trying to find that one piece of information that would close the gap between her struggles and the kind of parent she wanted to be. The stress of parenting an infant brought out a controlling side of her where she attempted to script every aspect of her (and her husband's) interactions with her child, thinking they had already screwed up parenting because he hadn't asked their child's consent before changing her diaper. Nicole was raised by a single parent who had had a traumatic upbringing, and Nicole grew up sometimes feeling scared by her mother's oversized reactions to normal childhood behavior. She knew she wanted more for her children - but didn't know what to do. Over the last year she's been working on 'reparenting' herself so she doesn't have to parent from a place of fear any more, and can relax into understanding her children's feelings - and her own and her partner's feelings as well. Want to get a taste of what it's like to work with directly with me? Join the FREE Setting Loving (and Effective!) Limits workshop - we start Monday April 26! Sign up below: https://yourparentingmojo.com/settinglimits/ () Jump to highlights: (03:19) Nicole's background (04:36) Nicole's parenting beliefs and values (06:31) Teaching respect by giving respect (08:07) Fear and anxiety of not getting parenting right (09:32) How inter generational trauma show up in your family (11:37) The unexpected reparenting piece (13:35) How talking about death with children led Nicole to my work (15:13) Nicole's experience with the Parenting Membership (18:32) What shifted in Nicole's that made her decide to take the Membership (19:17) Realizing the most unconditional thing you can do for your kids (20:12) Relationships our complex yet we don't think that way when it comes to our relationship with our children (21:08) Nicole's incredible example of how she shows up for her children and handles things differently now compared to before (24:45) Becoming more confident in parenting (26:09) Having the language to talk about our needs (28:39) How Nicole and her husband wants to model conflict to their children (34:44) Wrapping up Resource links: https://yourparentingmojo.com/settinglimits/ (Setting Loving (and Effective) Limits Workshop) https://yourparentingmojo.com/parentingmembership/ (The Parenting Membership) [accordion] [accordion-item title="Click here to read the full transcript"] Jen 00:02 Hi, I'm Jen and I host the Your Parenting Mojo Podcast. We all want our children to lead fulfilling lives, but it can be so hard to keep up with the latest scientific research on child development and figure out whether and how to incorporate it into our own approach to parenting. Here at Your Parenting Mojo, I do the work for you by critically examining strategies and tools related to parenting and child development that are grounded in scientific research and principles of respectful parenting. If you'd like to be notified when new episodes are released, and get a FREE Guide Called 13 Reasons Why Your Child Won't Listen To You and What To Do About Each One, just head over to YourParentingMojo.com/SUBSCRIBE. You can also continue the conversation about the show with other listeners in the Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group. I do hope you'll join us. Jen 00:59 Hello, and welcome to the Your Parenting Mojo Podcast. Today we welcome a special guest Nicole who has been working with me for over a year now. Nicole was raised by a single parent who had had a traumatic childhood herself, and who

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Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the light of day. Join her on her journey to get a Masters in Psychology focusing on Child Development, as she researches topics of interest to parents of toddlers and preschoolers from all angles, and suggests tools parents can use to help kids thrive - and make their own lives a bit easier in the process. Like Janet Lansbury's respectful approach to parenting? Appreciate the value of scientific research, but don't have time to read it all? Then you'll love Your Parenting Mojo. More information and references for each show are at www.YourParentingMojo.com. Subscribe there and get a free newsletter compiling relevant research on the weeks I don't publish a podcast episode!