How To Heal A Broken Heart
How To Heal A Broken Heart Wanting to know how to heal a broken heart? We’re with you friends. Turns out, how to get over heartbreak is something everyone deals with, sooner or later. In this very sweet and very tender episode, your spiritual best friends dive into the topic of getting over a breakup. We may not have a magic potion for you, but we do have some experience and hope to share around breaking up with someone you love. You see, we all have had a broken heart, too. Ella shares very sweetly about the experience of being in the midst of a breakup. Annie talks about being in two different loving relationships, one where she was the person breaking up with someone she loved and the other where she was the person being broken up with. Poni shares very tenderly about breaking up with someone you love, even if that someone is not a romantic partner. This means you might be experiencing a breakup with a family member or a friend if the relationship has become troubling. Sometimes we have to create space to protect our hearts, even if it breaks our hearts for the short term. How To Get Over Someone You Love In this episode, we talk about how hard it is (and how possible it is!) to get over someone you love. We know that getting over a breakup with someone you love sometimes needs more than just time and patience. That’s why we we don't just share our personal stories. We also share proven research about down-regulation of love to help your heart heal faster. That’s right, science! Who doesn’t love a little bit of science to help heal that sweet, tender heart? Are you curious what down-regulation of love means? Here is one example of how to heal a broken heart with down-regulation of love. First, you catch yourself staring at photos of your ex on social media, and fantasizing about them. Second, we encourage you to immediately stop following them on every social platform (always a good idea). Third, if you do happen to start dreaming about your ex, you can practice down-regulation of love by shifting from the positive, “Oh, they were so wonderful and perfect,” to the negative, “They actually never showed up for me in the way that I wanted them too.” Typically, we don't encourage negative thinking. However, this shift from negative to positive can actually help retrain your brain to ease out of the love with that person. That is to say, get over heartbreak faster. What To Do After A Breakup We know that broken hearts hurt so bad. We love you and are cheering for you. That’s why we decided to do this episode. Sometimes we need loving support and to know we’re not alone. Other times we need a basic instruction manual for life and serious spiritual healing to help us get through a hard time. In that vein, Ella demonstrates in real time the tools of being present that she uses to walk through her breakup. Annie shares tips and tools for how to handle life after a breakup whether you are the breakee or the breaker. (Do you like when we make up new vocabulary words, just to better accommodate the heartbreak episode? Breaker seemed like a good word to describe the person who is choosing to end the relationship and Breakee seemed like a good term to describe the person who is getting the breakup handed to them.) Poni shares some fantastic online resources that are linked in our tools tab, plus great somatic experiencing tools that can help you be present in moments of pain. You Are Not Alone Seeking out a loving support system is always important after a breakup. In addition to safe friends and family, building up your internal support system so you can self soothe is also important. We love meditation and prayer for finding space in scary times. Also, sometimes a sudden breakup can be experienced like trauma and can knock you off your feet. If you are suffering and need extra support, we always encourage you to reach out to your therapist for extra guidance. You don’t have to do any of this alone. To sum it all up, we want you to know that whether your heart is hurting and you’re unsure what to do, you are not alone. We are here for you with this special podcast episode about how to deal with heartbreak. We hope it opens up a spark of light in your heart so you feel safe, loved, and some sense of peace that even in sad or hard times you will find joy again. Plus, there are so many cute people to kiss in the world! We can’t wait to hear what you think. Please let us know by emailing us or connecting with us on social media and commenting there. We’re all one big team. We’ve got to stick together. How To Heal A Broken Heart We may not have a magic potion for you, but we do have some experience and hope to share around breaking up with someone you love. You see, we all have had a broken heart, too. Ella shares very sweetly about the experience of being in the midst of a breakup. Annie talks about being in two different loving relationships, one where she was the person breaking up with someone she loved and the other she was the person being broken up with. Poni shares very tenderly about breaking up with someone you love, even if that someone is not a romantic partner. Sometimes we have to create space to protect our hearts, even if it breaks our hearts for the short term. How To Get Over Someone You Love In this episode, we talk about how hard it is (and how possible it is!) to get over someone you love. We know that getting over a breakup with someone you love sometimes needs more than just time and patience. That’s why we’re sharing not only our personal stories but some proven research about down-regulation of love to help your heart heal faster. That’s right, science! Who doesn’t love a little bit of science to help heal that heart! Are you curious what down-regulation of love means? An example of down-regulation of love would be, when you catch yourself staring at photos of your ex on social media, you would disengage from following them at all (always a good idea). Then, if you did happen to start dreaming about your ex, you’d practice down-regulation of love. This means instead of saying, “Oh, they were so wonderful and perfect,” and viewing your ex through neon pink rosy glasses you'd shift to the negative. You might think to yourself, “Actually, they never showed up for me in the way that I wanted them too.” We don't usually promote negative thinking. However, this shift from negative to positive can help retrain your brain to ease out of the love with that person. That is to say, get over heartbreak faster. What To Do After A Breakup We know that broken hearts hurt so bad. We love you and are cheering for you. That’s why we decided to do this episode. Sometimes we all need extra love and support and to know that we are not alone. Other times we need a basic instruction manual for how to get through a hard time. In that vein, Ella demonstrates in real time the tools of being present that she uses to walk through her breakup. Annie shares tips and tools for how to handle life after a breakup whether you are the breakee or the breaker. (Do you like when we make up new vocabulary words, just to better accommodate the heartbreak episode? Breaker seemed like a good word to describe the person who is choosing to end the relationship and Breakee seemed like a good term to describe the person who is getting the breakup handed to them.) Poni shares some fantastic online resources that are linked in our tools tab, plus great somatic experiencing tools that can help you be present in moments of pain. We Heal Together Seeking out a loving support system is always important after a breakup. In addition to safe friends and family, building up your internal support system so you can self soothe is also important. We love meditation and prayer as two tools to help create internal space and internal support when we are feeling overwhelmed. Also, sometimes a sudden breakup can be experienced like trauma and can knock you off your feet. If you are suffering and need extra support, we always encourage you to reach out to your therapist for extra guidance. You do not have to do any of this alone. To sum it all up, we want you to know that whether your heart is hurting or you’re unsure what to do, you are not alone. We are here for you with this special podcast episode about how to deal with heartbreak. We hope it opens up a spark of light in your heart so you feel safe, loved, and gives you some sense of peace that even in sad or hard times you will find joy again. Plus, there are so many cute people to kiss in the world! Just think of all the fun you'll have once your heart is on the mend. We can’t wait to hear what you think. Please let us know by emailing us or connecting with us on social media and commenting there. We’re all one big team. We’ve got to stick together. Much Love, Pretty Spiritual Podcast Annie, Ella, & Lindsay Poni